It’s Valentine’s Day AGAIN?! A Guide to Spicing Up Your Love Life
That’s right people. Valentine’s Day is back, yet again, with all of its splendor. You ever feel like you are running out of ways to show your partner you love them? Well, you’re not alone. Keep reading.
Year after year, as the date approaches, you begin to feel the pressure to “out-do” last year’s festivities. Depending on the dynamics of the relationship, this pressure may be placed on either partner. I can only imagine how difficult it may be to put your “creative caps” on, time and time again, to conjure up something new and exciting for your loved one. Not to mention, there are birthdays, anniversaries, and other holidays that require the same, if not more, time and energy .
So, the question becomes, “How can I keep V-Day interesting”? The answer is simple. Don’t participate in it. Totally kidding. I know some of you probably read that and felt a sense of relief. In all seriousness, if it’s easier to not celebrate, and you and your partner agree to not do so, by all means, go forth! You can stop reading right here, but for those of you who indulge in all that the holiday has to to offer, I have some tips for you:
• Think Outside the Box (of chocolates). Valentines Day doesn’t always have to be about giving physical gifts. What is your partner passionate about? If they are passionate about helping others, how about go on a date with them to feed the homeless.
• Mutual Benefit. Instead of the pressure being on one person to perform this grand gesture, how can you and your partner come together to make the experience enjoyable for you both?
• Trade Places. If you are typically the partner on the receiving end of all of the Valentine’s Day regalia, how about switch it up this year and spoil your partner?
• Fantasies Fulfilled. What is your partner’s sexual fantasy? Make it come to life.
I hope I have sparked an idea of some sort in your mind about what you would like to do for V-Day. Trust yourself and that you know what your partner likes. Take a deep breath. You got this. Let the planning commence.
Lyrica Solomon, MFT