Focusing On Your Partner’s Love Language on Valentine’s Day
One of the most anticipated days of the year is finally here!Valentine’s Day! Although love should be expressed to our loved ones throughout the year, Valentine’s day provides everyone a chance to step out of there busy lives to consciously show affection to the people they care about. However, if you are like many others you might be unsure on what to do for your Valentine which can be very stressful. But don’t worry, I have the perfect solution for you. Show your partner affection by using their love language!
If you are unfamiliar with Gary Chapman, The Five Love Language, it describes different ways people receive love. The Five Love languages are designed to help us pay more attention to our partner. In that, we figure out how they like to be treated so we can consciously express affection and support in a way that makes our partner feel loved. Below is the list of the five love languages and some ideas to help you plan valentine’s day using the five love languages.
• Physical Touch- hugging, kissing, back rubs, and hand-holding
• Acts of Service-going out of your way to do something for someone especially when it’s a sacrifice
• Words of Affirmation-praise and affection both private and public
• Quality Time-giving undivided attention and being present
• Receiving Gifts-giving gifts that are thoughtful and special
If you don’t know your love language or your Valentine, Take the quiz right here! https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/ The results should make planning valentine’s day much easier.
Physical Touch
Is your partner someone who loves physical touch? Buy a Groupon for a couple’s massage or give your own personalmassage. How about a morning cuddle before work? You can also go dancing and if your partner doesn’t like dancing then if you are up for it do a little dance for him/her.
Acts of Service
Engage in thoughtful gestures aimed to ease some of the burden off your valentine such as taking out the trash, filling up their gas tank, taking their car to get detailed/cleaned, or make a home cooked breakfast or dinner.
Quality Time
What is a better way to give your Valentine your undivided attention then to engage in a weekend away together, engage inwine tasting or have a stay-cation with indoor activities (games, movies, questions)
Words of Affirmation
Those who love language is words of affirmation want to know why they are special to you. So why not send a memoji to remind them how much they mean to you. Place a note in their lunch telling them how amazing they are. Write a poem expressing your love and appreciation
Gift Giving
If your valentine’s love language is gift giving, then it is important to know it’s about the thoughtfulness and effort behind the gift. Try these suggestions! Gift a blanket or pillow with a picture collage of memories, gift something special that supports their dream/ career, and/or gift their favorite dessert/candy.
I hope this helps you plan a wonderful Valentine date!
Tiana Teague, MFT