April Showers Bring May Flowers

No, this is not a horticulture lesson, but it is a quick chat about growing and blossoming through our pain. Our tears are like rain…sometimes the worst storms bring about the most beautiful blooms.

I felt compelled to share this blog after frequently hearing clients make statements such as, “I don’t cry,” “I don’t like to cry” or “Crying makes me weak.” Sigh…allow me to take a deep breath. Something as natural as crying has been villainized and deemed as unnecessary. Releasing tears to express our pain is a cleansing process. It allows us to self-soothe and move towards a positive mood. So, when we stifle our tears, we are slowing the process of relieving the anguish we are experiencing.

In the same vein, tears are a great way to express overwhelming joy. For example, that gush of tears that flow when hearing someone profess their love and affection for you cannot be avoided by most individuals. In that moment, you are connecting soul to soul and the best way to experience it is through a good gut-wrenching cry.

When we allow the tears to well up and flow, most times it’s hard to stop them. The experience is like an amazing floodgate. Once we are on the other side of the tears, we can begin the process of healing even if the circumstances that upset us have not changed. A good cry can leave us feeling cleansed and at peace.

So, the next time you feel the urge to shed tears, go for it.

·       Hear a sad love song that reminds you of a lost love – SHED A TEAR

·       Hear a love song that reminds you that you are in love - SHED A TEAR

·       Death of a loved one - SHED A TEAR

·       Birth of a child - SHED A TEAR

·       Get laid off – SHED A TEAR

·       Accept a job offer you’ve always wanted - SHED A TEAR

·       Feeling overwhelmed by life - SHED A TEAR

·       Just bought your first home - SHED A TEAR

If you are in a season of April showers, be kind to yourself and look forward to a beautiful bloom of May flowers.

Yvon Roland, LPC